Toby
Toby is a unisex given name: about 81% of people named Toby are men and 19% are women, so a gendered salutation is a coin flip and the neutral form is the safe choice.
- Verdict
- Mostly male
- Male / female split
- 81% male / 19% female
- Confidence
- High (64 or more weighted country observations)
- Most common in
- United States, Great Britain, Israel
- US births since 1880
- 33,189 male / 7,680 female
- Data
- nam_dict (GFDL) + US SSA
- Updated
- 2026-09-11
How to address Toby
To address Toby when you do not know their gender, use the full name with no title: "Dear Toby," in English, "Guten Tag Toby," in German. About 81% of people named Toby are men and 19% are women, so a gendered salutation is close to a coin flip, and the neutral form above is the safer choice.
Ready-made greetings in six languages
English
Dear Toby,
German
Guten Tag Toby,
French
Bonjour Toby,
Spanish
Estimado/a Toby:
Chinese
Toby您好：
Japanese
Toby様
English
Hi Toby,
German
Hi Toby,
French
Salut Toby,
Spanish
Hola Toby,
Chinese
Toby你好：
Japanese
Tobyさん
This is a statistical estimate, not a statement about the gender, identity or correct form of address of any particular person.
Country breakdown
| Country | How common | Usually | Male share |
|---|---|---|---|
| United States | very common | man's name | 81% |
| Great Britain | rare | man's name | 75% |
| Israel | rare | man's name | 75% |
United States birth data
33,189 male · 7,680 female · 40,869 births recorded
Since 1980: 88% male.
Frequently asked questions
Is Toby a male or female name?
Toby is a unisex given name: about 81% of people named Toby are men and 19% are women, so a gendered salutation is a coin flip and the neutral form is the safe choice.
How do I address Toby in an email?
To address Toby when you do not know their gender, use the full name with no title: "Dear Toby," in English, "Guten Tag Toby," in German. About 81% of people named Toby are men and 19% are women, so a gendered salutation is close to a coin flip, and the neutral form above is the safer choice.
Is Toby a unisex name?
Toby is not a unisex name: 81% of people named Toby are men. Toby leans strongly male overall.
Related names
Sources
Gender by country: nam_dict, the c't first-names dictionary by Joerg Michael, roughly 44,000 names across 55 countries, licensed GFDL. US frequencies: United States Social Security Administration baby-name data, public domain. Method: how we classify names. Full dataset: data & licences. Data built 2026-09-11.
DearWho, "Is Toby a male or female name?", https://dearwho.vercel.app/name/toby (accessed 2026-09-11). Data: nam_dict (J. Michael, GFDL) and US SSA, built 2026-09-11.
BibTeX
@misc{dearwho_toby,
title = {Is Toby a male or female name?},
author = {{DearWho}},
year = {2026},
url = {https://dearwho.vercel.app/name/toby},
note = {Data: nam_dict (GFDL), US SSA public domain}
}