Tom
Tom is a male given name: 99% of people named Tom are men, and it is recorded as male in 12 of the 12 countries covered.
- Verdict
- Male
- Male / female split
- 99% male / 1% female
- Confidence
- High (64 or more weighted country observations)
- Most common in
- United States, Ireland, Norway
- US births since 1880
- 139,231 male / 613 female
- Data
- nam_dict (GFDL) + US SSA
- Updated
- 2026-09-11
How to address Tom
When you do not know their gender for certain, the full name with no title is the safe choice: "Dear Tom," in English, "Guten Tag Tom," in German. Tom is a male given name: about 99% of people named Tom are men. A quick look at a profile confirms it for certain.
Ready-made greetings in six languages
English
Dear Tom,
German
Guten Tag Tom,
French
Bonjour Tom,
Spanish
Estimado/a Tom:
Chinese
Tom您好：
Japanese
Tom様
English
Hi Tom,
German
Hi Tom,
French
Salut Tom,
Spanish
Hola Tom,
Chinese
Tom你好：
Japanese
Tomさん
This is a statistical estimate, not a statement about the gender, identity or correct form of address of any particular person.
Country breakdown
| Country | How common | Usually | Male share |
|---|---|---|---|
| United States | very common | man's name | 100% |
| Ireland | common | man's name | 98% |
| Norway | common | man's name | 98% |
| Belgium | uncommon | man's name | 98% |
| Denmark | uncommon | man's name | 98% |
| Netherlands | uncommon | man's name | 98% |
| Great Britain | uncommon | man's name | 98% |
| Sweden | uncommon | man's name | 98% |
| Switzerland | rare | man's name | 98% |
| Germany | rare | man's name | 98% |
| East Frisia | rare | man's name | 98% |
| Austria | rare | man's name | 98% |
United States birth data
139,231 male · 613 female · 139,844 births recorded
Since 1980: 100% male.
Frequently asked questions
Is Tom a male or female name?
Tom is a male given name: 99% of people named Tom are men, and it is recorded as male in 12 of the 12 countries covered.
How do I address Tom in an email?
When you do not know their gender for certain, the full name with no title is the safe choice: "Dear Tom," in English, "Guten Tag Tom," in German. Tom is a male given name: about 99% of people named Tom are men. A quick look at a profile confirms it for certain.
Is Tom a unisex name?
Tom is not a unisex name: 99% of people named Tom are men. Tom leans strongly male overall.
Related names
Sources
Gender by country: nam_dict, the c't first-names dictionary by Joerg Michael, roughly 44,000 names across 55 countries, licensed GFDL. US frequencies: United States Social Security Administration baby-name data, public domain. Method: how we classify names. Full dataset: data & licences. Data built 2026-09-11.
DearWho, "Is Tom a male or female name?", https://dearwho.vercel.app/name/tom (accessed 2026-09-11). Data: nam_dict (J. Michael, GFDL) and US SSA, built 2026-09-11.
BibTeX
@misc{dearwho_tom,
title = {Is Tom a male or female name?},
author = {{DearWho}},
year = {2026},
url = {https://dearwho.vercel.app/name/tom},
note = {Data: nam_dict (GFDL), US SSA public domain}
}